Okay, so I'm really annoyed with my dad lately and wanted to just vent a little. If anyone has tips on how I can handle this situation, that would be really, really helpful!!

So, my dad has always been taken care of. He's had jobs, and lived on his own for maybe a year out of his life. Other than that, my grandmother always did everything for him. Well, now that my grandma is gone, he's going to need to start supporting himself. However, everytime I turn around, he's drunk. It's like he expects ME to give him money and help him. He has until December of this year to move out and I think that's plenty of time for him to get a job, and get a place on his own. I've decided, I'm not helping him at all. I just know he's going to end up being homeless and it's sad!

I wish I could help him, but I won't let him use me like he used my grandma.

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-Brittany Brydahl

I hope your dad is not a burden on you. My cousin is facing the same problem, but as our culture "dictates"; he takes care of his dad's financial issues which unfortunately also include gambling. I guess he is still doing it because he doesn’t want to feel guilty & of course cause he can afford it.

p.s- on a personal note, I agree with you on not being used.

I'm crossing my fingers.. he has been a lot better lately and he really seems to be becoming more of an adult. I notice he is less needy and not calling me 24/7 haha. He's also getting out more and running errands on his own.. it's nice to see. makes me happy Maybe my grandma was a burder on him as well.. I'm really not sure.

If I have a father like that, who do not want to work and yet have enough strength and experience to do work, I won't help him. I won't give support to him. It may sound bad, but if it is the only way for him to realize what he is doing, I have no choice but to let him experience that I will not help him if he won't help himself.

From my experience, people like that will always find someone to take advantage of. My father-in-law is one example - he uses people's pity and makes them take care of him. When someone gets fed up and tells him where to go, he just moves on to find someone else.

You are right when you say you don't want to let him use you. I hope you stick to this decision.

I hope that this problem go away for a refundable
Hey but I do not be harsh with your father and I tell him that he must get a job, even a modest Lankan Atsttiay to help him and try to make him leave alcohol because it hurt him

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