hi, currently i am in US and 3yrs back one of my colleague who was married by that time itself came to me and said so many things that he loves me a lot, expressed that in many ways, in a single shot he was just like at my feet for accepting his love and said many times that he doesnt like his wife and wanted to get rid of her/come out of his married life. He gave enough confidence to me that he would marry me for sure. Slowly I started loving him and accepted his love, and from that day i started loving him sincerely. He slowly started touching, kissing me and infact he had physical relation with me many times. I became very possessive about him and started imposing some conditions like he shouldnt touch his wife etc and insisted him to marry me ASAP. But he used to say that it will be difficult for him to create problems and get rid of her being in US, so started saying that he will go back to India in another 6months and will create problems at home for his wife and will come out of the currect married life. I accepted for that also but after a month or two, she became pregnant with which i was very much irritated and thought of disclosing my relation with him to his wife but he gave a lots of confidence that he will surely go back and come out of that life. Last month he left back to India and after going there he is telling that he can not marry me and can;t come out of that life. He had maintained relation with me for almost 3yrs and now he is saying like this. I do not want continue with my life, very much depressed. Just a day before he left from US also he had physical relation with me, he cheated me like anything and now he is saying that I called him to have physical relation it seems and he told many times that he can't marry me. I asked him if he doesnt have any intention of marrying me then why he had that relation with me a day before he left from here. For that also he is telling that since i asked him to come to my place and since i asked him to be with me for sometime that day, he came and he had physical relation it seems. I just asked him to be with me for sometime because i was very much upset that he was leavin that place. He cheated me. I would like to teach him a lesson, he is not realising the pain he gave to me, so please advice or suggest me how to do this or whether i can reveal his true character to his wife, if she comes to know about him then only he will realise, because i know about her she will take off his prestige in frnt of everyone then he will understand what he did with me. now he is blaming character. Please advice me in taking revenge on him or teaching him a lesson or punishing him.

Well, I feel sorry for you. Having said that
don't go the revenge/get back route. Chalk this
up to experience and move on. Don't see him
ever again.

I also think you should let his wife know.
Maybe it will prevent another affair for him or worse.

-F

Oh taking revenge is really not nice even if you got a huge grudge on him right now you still have to move on and forget about that crazy fag. He don't have the right to just fool around with women like that God will surely punish him for all the troubles he had caused you so let him do it for you. Just concentrate on getting over him and have a peace of mind and don't think about getting revenge it'll only ruin you.

It's time for you to forget him and move on with your life. Have a make over for yourself and circulate with old friends and meet new friends. Don't let your depression take over your life. There is so much more about life than living with a grudge. Live your own life!

I know revenge sounds like a nice plan, but it's not worth it, trust me. It will end up either backfiring or you will regret it later in life. It's just something you should move on from and learn from. I'm really sorry it happened to you!!

Punish him by having nothing to do with him and he'll know he's missing out

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-Brittany Brydahl

Getting revenge is not really good. Break up with him, live your life without him and just move on. there are other man out there who is much more deserving of your love.

I realize that not many people might agree with me when I say this, but I think it is basically your fault for maintaining a relationship with a married man. Thus, revenge is not a route you should take to resolve your issues. Accept that this was a life lesson for you and then move on with the rest of your life.

No, you're not alone there.. I agree with you. If you're with someone who is cheating on someone already then that doesn't say much about their character. I mean, how do you know he wouldn't turn around and cheat on you?

Don't be with men who cheat

Revenge is not the answer to your problem. This should be a lesson to those who are engage with married men.

Move on and forget about your experience with him. Just don't make the same mistake again. You should learn from this experience.