I have a friend who is in relation with a guy from past 3 years, there is a problem with the guy that he doesn't give much time to her though he loves her very much and is true to her. She has some how managed to bear it but now she is getting skeptical about it but at the same time she loves him and she also knows that he loves too. What should she do??

Well what i would recommend is that she should talk to him, rather them two talk to each other. Nothing can be done without sharing what one feels, which can only resolve problems, and im sure it wont make them worse. Its only after this that she should take any decisions, but if they do love each other then im sure it wont harm the relationship, but instead make it better.

Thanks Sara, that's a good idea. acyually she is not able ho gather gutts to talk to him i will try to persuade her. Thanks..

Your friend should not hesistate at all, I mean if she loves the guy and is close to him, then why should she need to gather guts, be straight and upfront to him. This will not only help the current situation but also help her in solving future problems.

It may be that he is stressed about something or is under a lot of pressure to do work or something else, so as Sara has said its best to talk.

I believe the most effective way to resolve the issue would be for your friend to have a good heart-to-heart with him. Nothing gets resolved unless you put all the cards on the table, so to speak. And communication always opens up different possibilities for both parties as well. I think if she would go straight to him and talk about her concerns, he would be receptive and perhaps even do something to improve the situation. If your friend doesn't feel comfortable talking to him about this issue, she can also write him a nice letter. In my experience, it does wonders and we are always sure to have said it all, without worrying about leaving anything out.

I agree that your friend needs to talk to the guy, and I also think that a lot depends on why he is not giving her much time. Is he busy working? Is it likely that his work / career will always have him so occupied? If so, your friend needs to prepare herself for the lifetime of this, if she loves the man and wants to be with him. Hopefully though, some things can be adjusted in his schedule.

Sometimes love is blind and we can't see what's right in front of us, alot of the times when we are in love we just can't bear the though of being without this person even though they may be ruining our lives. All you can do is be there and be a good friend and try not to be too judgemental because when people are in love, logic is the last thing they want to hear. hopefully she will come to her senses soon.

I really think the best way to deal with this would be for her to talk to him and let her know how she's feeling. A lot of the time, people just don't understand that they're treating someone a certain way.

My boyfriend was doing the same to me.. I just kept letting him know when he was making me feel like I was boring him and then he has worked to spend more time with him. We actually have certain days each week that it's just us to and he lets me choose whatever we do.

It's nice: going to movies, watching our fav tv shows together. I really like it

How does she know that? I think he is seeing someone else on the side.

what is he spending his time on? that will help us understand
what is going on.

There is also anothe scenario, the guy is good and faithful and
loves her and spends enormous amounts of time with her, but
she needs more and is an attention seeker. Not knowing your
friend or her BF personally this is too little information to be giving
advice on.

-F

Very good points Farce. It may be that the man is seeing someone else, or it may be that the problem is actually in the girl's perception of it - she thinks he does not spend enough time with her because she wants more.

Jessika, any updates from your friend and here boyfriend?

That may be a good point of view. In some cases a couple should always communicate with each other to sort things out.

Well relationships is a give and take situation. Not all the time that it would be a perfect relationship there will be always a point in time wherein challenges will try your relationship and that would be time to prove how much you love each other despite the shortcomings of each one of you.

I was dealing with this in my last relationship and it was okay at first, but then I realized that he was never going to change, so I moved on and I'm much happier with my new boyfriend.