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Old 07-23-2009, 02:53 PM
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My friend is having difficulty in conceiving a child. She is only 24 years old and her husband wanted to have a child. Do you think, it would be a good idea to adopt a child immediately?
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Old 07-23-2009, 04:24 PM
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Well before going for an adoption, they should consider getting a check up, and this goes for your friend and her husband. Get expert advice and help before taking steps towards adoption. Unless they want to adopt that's fine, but if they are going to adopt because they cant conceive they should get themselves checked out for any problems they may have.
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Old 07-24-2009, 02:44 PM
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I agree with you. Being 24 years old, I think she still have more than enough time get a baby. But adopting a child is not bad at all. It will even help the kids who are not so lucky.
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Old 07-30-2009, 10:29 AM
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Adoption is a good idea if that's what the person wants. Trying to conceive using medical procedures can be pretty pricey, though. Adoption could turn out to be easier and less of a hassle.
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Old 08-05-2009, 06:18 AM
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There are many children that need a loving family. Adoption is a lifetime commitment. Regardless of the age of the perspective parents adoption is a viable option. If she prefers a child of her own flesh and blood your friend is young and should keep trying.
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I think it is too early to think for adoption, unless they discover and they knew that they will have difficulty in having their own baby.
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Old 08-07-2009, 01:39 PM
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Your friend is only 24 years old, I don't think adoption would be the answer to their problem. Is your friend working? Some of the cases, a woman would not conceive a child immediately if she is stressed. Another thing, they should not pressure themselves.
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Did her husband agree with the idea of adopting a child? They are both young. As for me, adoption would not be an option yet. They have to be patient. Just enjoy each others company at the meantime.
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Old 08-10-2009, 10:28 AM
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That's so true. Couples shouldn't be in such a big rush to have children. Take pleasure in being together and having time for each other. There's plenty of people who enter a marriage with plenty of children and don't have this opportunity.
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Old 08-22-2009, 11:40 AM
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Your friend is only 24 years old, I don't think adoption would be the answer to their problem. Is your friend working? Some of the cases, a woman would not conceive a child immediately if she is stressed. Another thing, they should not pressure themselves.
She is currently working and I guess, it is one of the factors why she isn't pregnant yet. Her husband is quite excited to have kids and it adds pressure on her part. Do you think medication would help?
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I do not think that taking medication without consulting a physician is advisable. True. Your bestfriend should consult her doctor first. There are numerous way to help a couple conceive, either through natural and artificial ways. I think adoption should be the last resort. :-)
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Old 09-18-2009, 07:50 AM
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24 years old is pretty young. you still have time to be pregnant and have a baby. Consult first a doctor on what to do. they might even teach you when you are fertile. just give it a try first before having the option of adoption
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Old 09-18-2009, 08:10 AM
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I don't adopting a child at 24 is advisable, she is still very young and from what I understand they have not exhausted all the other medical possibilities yet. Adoption is usually the last recourse in this type of cases. I think it would be better if she takes a little more time and considers other options that are available to her first.
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Maybe the couple isn't as ready for children as they think. There's plenty of time to have children later. Why can't they just enjoy each other's company for now? Having children around is a big job with lots of responsibility. You won't have as much free time as you did before.
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I don't think it's a good idea to adopt a child that early. She's still young. As far as I remember, there are women who had their first pregnancy at the age of 35.
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